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[quote=Anonymous]Hmmm, horror stories.

Parent told the 2 year old my second day, "Nanny doesn't get to tell you no, you can do anything you want."

Parents allowed a 2 year old to eat just crackers and a four year old to eat just ice cream.  Oh, and wanted both children in the same room I was in while I managed to sweep/mop/shine 12000 sq ft of hardwood.  Every. Day.  In addition to other "light housekeeping." And neither child napped.

Parent advertised that children weren't picky and had no special needs.  Five children: one vegetarian, one who won't eat anything green, one who won't eat anything processed (including dairy if it wasn't made at home), one who only eats food that he saw come out of a box and one who (thank goodness!) would eat anything I handed her.  Dad is allergic to shellfish, Mom is allergic to nuts, soy and corn.  They wanted me to make 6 separate meals for every breakfast/dinner and 2 for lunch; the two year old and I could eat a little bit of each thing.  Oh, and pack lunches for both parents and the two children in school.  I asked if I could spend one Saturday a month making the meals and portioning/freezing, but they were horrified by that idea.

Parents advertised no special needs, 3 children ages 2-7, $300/week for ~30 hours/week for a two week trial period and then $800/week for closer to 45 hours/week.  I live-in and the first two days were as advertised.  Then Mom's sister brought over her three to stay while she traveled for a month (autism, CP, and severe ADHD respectively).  The following day, I already had the six children when Mom's other sister brought over the twin infants so she could go shopping.

Five year old was mad that new baby was taking away attention, so was hitting a two month old.  Parents are of the mindset that it's harmful to tell a child no, impose any negative discipline or even redirect.  The only thing I was allowed to do was praise the boy when he walked away finally.

I had to report a parent to CPS.  The nine year old's ribs were heavily bruised, so I was going to ice them.  Dad told me that was his punishment the previous night and he wasn't to have any ice or pain medication, he needed to learn to behave and take his punishment like a man.  He punched the child, repeatedly!  And according to the X-Rays, there were two hairline fractures.

Mom had been a SAHM, went to nursing school.  Eight year old was not handling the transition to nanny well, so I recommended spending more quality time with him rather than watching television.  Parents decided counseling would be a better idea and kept scheduling appointments but arranging so that I couldn't get him there.  He started hitting, kicking and punching the eleven year old (medically fragile, in remission), only option was to redirect aggression to me, but the parents were furious that I was "hurting" their child (I was hugging him and not letting go until he calmed down, and I wouldn't have done so if I had not been trained to immobilize a violent child without hurting the child or me).

Sometimes I wonder what the parents are thinking, how they can possibly think any of this is ok, especially when the nanny walks in, not expecting any of it.

On the other hand, it's always lovely when parents over exaggerate a situation so the nanny goes in well prepared.  I've found that most parents that give information want the nanny to be confident that she can handle whatever the situation is, and I've been pleasantly surprised a few times when the situation was less chaotic than I was told![/quote]

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