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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's always fun when someone who gave birth a few months ago thinks they know better than someone with 15 years of experience.[/quote]

Don't you remember being a FTM?  I remember that I didn't know what was normal for every baby, and what was unique to my baby.  What every parent did, and what was my own particular parenting philosophy.

Now, 5 kids later, yeah, I am comfortable telling the nanny that this baby needs xyz, and we are parents who do abc, and letting her run with it, but not so much in the beginning.  [/quote]

If you enter into a nanny/employer relationship, there must be trust.  There is no way around it. It just won't work without it.
As scary as it is, parents have to take a leap of faith and allow the nanny the opportunity to bond with their child.
You know your child better than anyone.  You must allow the nanny the opportunity to learn about your child, to anticipate their needs and learn their cues.
Popping in unannounced, requesting 16 pictures a day (8 hours x 30 minutes) and telling the nanny how to do everything will not foster a relationship of trust between the parties.  It will just wear the nanny down until she eventually leaves.  If the nanny has done nothing to make them question whether their child will be safe, then why are they doing this 2 months later?
You have to let go. You have to trust.  
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Yes.  And an experienced, good nanny will understand that letting go and trusting can be a process.  A secure, confident, experienced nanny has seen first time parents of all stripes, and knows how to help them work through their nervousness.

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I'm PP and you are correct.  I said that as a good, experienced nanny.  
It is important to be understanding and kind to first time parents, but there comes a point when they have to make the decision to trust the professional they hired to do her job.  You can be understanding and kind until the cows come home, but some parents have serious trouble trusting.[/quote]

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