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[quote=Anonymous]This is about them not you OP.  Whether or not they can relax only time will tell.

In the meantime, I think if my nanny gently suggested to me that maybe I want to put in a nanny cam so I can be reassured that she's taking good care of my baby I would get the message!  :-)

So I would encourage you to talk to them, just come at it from the perspective of understanding how concerned they are, wanting to reassure them in whatever way you can, etc...  Don't come at it from "all my other families trusted me immediately" or you'll just sound needlessly defensive.

The myriad levels of guilt a parent can feel, especially a mother, are really profound.  And I know from my own battle with infertility that once you do actually become a parent, and then you still choose to continue working, there is an additional layer of guilt and judgment on that. (Maybe this mother is even getting a hard time from friends and family about the choices she is making.)

Anyway, try not to take it too personally, do try to work with them and gently send the message that you are very experienced, you will take wonderful care of their baby, and you want to help them build trust in you however you can.

Open communication between parents and nannies seems to be an ongoing challenge - so maybe you can start building good habits now.  Talk about what is and isn't working in these early days, and frame those conversations around the job - not the individual personalities or your own assumptions or percerptions.  It will make for much easier and more productive conversations.

Don't give up yet - give them a chance to calm down.

Good luck![/quote]

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