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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just experienced this from the other side as a nanny to a new family last week.  They just moved here and the grandmother was in town to help out.  She said she would back off but it made it super difficult to connect with my new charges and they constantly looked to the grandmother and it was like a game of tug and war. Immediately after the grandmother left town it was like new. They realized they could rely on me and we bonded.  They now feel a connection.  I suggest giving your nanny time and actually allowing her to bond with your mom not around.  My charges are a bit older but still.

Also my previous charge was an infant and the mom worked from home.  When she wasn't around I would talk to him constantly and sing silly songs etc.  but when I felt she was actually around or lurking, or straight up walking through the room I would kind of get shy and quiet.  Your nanny is new and not comfortable and having you and your mother around can only hinder it[/quote]

Do you think something like this is going on, OP?  Is your mom hovering?  
Or is your nanny calling your mom while she is out having lunch with friends or trying to work from your home and asking her to come and put the baby down for a nap or feed her, or whatever?  I personally can't imagine my mom not making plans during the time the nanny was caring for the baby, but not all grandmas are created equal :)

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My mom is not really going out - she stays at home when the nanny is there. I don't think she is hovering - she actually wants the nanny to do more with the baby - but I will admit she is mostly in the next room or close by. When feeding or sleeping - she will let the nanny try for 30 minutes or so, before she tries to help. I know when the baby is playing - she stays out of the way. But as I mentioned - the nanny does not seem to talk too much to the baby (not sure if it is because she is shy or if she is not connecting with the baby). [/quote]

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