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[quote=Anonymous]Hello everyone,

We've had our nanny since my older child was 18 months and she's been with us for a year and a half now. She's not the most nurturing person in the world but she's creative, dynamic and complements our parenting style rather well - our approaches are different but balance well together. We now have a small baby she is caring for and I'm a bit concerned that her lack of nurturing skills are going to be a problem. She doesn't really show much interest in our 3 month old and seems to try to "manage" him more than tune in to him e.g. keeping him asleep as long as possible. I know it's hard to focus on 2 kids at the same time, but we've given her a 30% raise to care for our second child while we work (she sets her rates, not us), so what should our expectations be? I work from home 80% of the time so I can help but I also need to get work done. I'm concerned my younger child will not get the attention he deserves. She's not the type to get down on the floor and play with him. I know he will be safe and clean with her but I'm worried he will not get everything he deserves. I participate, nurse him and play with him one-on-one a few times a day but that's probably not enough. Am I expecting too much? Too little? We're sending our older one to preschool soon a few half days a week so hopefully that will help. We've also told her we don't expect her to actively entertain both kids at the same time given the age difference and that it's ok to give our older one a quiet activity to do (play with her dolls, play dough, color, etc.) while she plays with our infant for two 30/45 minute sessions a day. Is that not realistic? What works for you? Any advice helps, whether you're a parent or a nanny.

Thanks!
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