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[quote=Anonymous]This is a tough one. I think I would say 'I just heard that your mother died, I am so sorry for your loss' and leave it at that - maybe right before she leaves for the day so that she is not on the spot if she feels too emotional. Or maybe even text her so she has the privacy to react the way she needs to react? And then never mention it again unless she indicates she'd like to talk about it. And it's not about you that she didn't tell you, it's about her. Don't take it personally. A very very close friend of mine lost her mother a year ago and though we share practically everything she just wasn't ready to talk about it until a few months after, and even now she can't talk about her mother without getting upset . Don't ask her why she didn't tell you - there's a myriad of reasons and most likely they're not about you but about her. You seem caring and considerate and I'm sure your nanny appreciates it, just keep that up.[/quote]
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