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[quote=Anonymous]MB here, whose parents (unfortunately) sometimes communicate too much directly with the nanny. I think you just need to correct position of the seat, stress your requirements to the nanny and move on. Here is rationale:

A. If you allow direct contact between grand parents and the nanny, you can't control what is said, and you can't blame the nanny for not distinguishing between your wishes and your MIL. No matter how much you tell the nanny that YOU are the boss, what is nanny supposed to do when MIL might "suggest" something, and how is nanny to know that MIL doesn't speak for you, especially if you are on a long trip? We had several instances when my mom would tell nanny "let's do X", nanny might say "well, I don't think MB would want me to do X", and my mom would say "don't mind MB, she is young, X is definitely better". You can't blame the nanny for doing X in this situation.

B. In terms of how car seats are installed in nanny's car, you can't have an expectation, that she will never remove the car seats to have extra room in her car for weekends/after hours. If you don't trust the nanny to correctly install the car seats (and I wouldn't trust my current nanny, for example), you need to either provide your own vehicle for kids' transport, or inspect the installation every Monday, or whenever car seats are moved.

C. The only reason this can be raised to a written warning situation, if you repeatedly stressed to the nanny that she is not to FF your DC AND that she is to ignore all MIL "suggestions" and any MIL's opinions regarding raising kids. If none of those thing was stressed before, sorry, you can't blame the nanny.

And by the way, as a mom with a PhD is statistics related field, who directly looked up all and read all related studies on RF vs FF and at different ages, I can tell you there is NO scientific proof that RF till manufacturer suggested age saves lifes/ prevents significant injury. There are articles that populous media spinned into something related. And this is one of the times that I think that AAP went with definitely not harmful, but not proven recommendation. I FF my kids at 1. 
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