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[quote=Anonymous]Our nanny who has become a part of our family and who I thought would be with us for the long haul has basically told me this job is too hard for her.  She said that she didn't want to work five days a week and didn't want to work overtime.  But that just doesn't work for our family.  So I gave her some options of things that I can do to alleviate her work load as a temporary fix and then said that she could either choose to find another family (and that I'd help her and wouldn't be mad at her) or that she could cut back to three days a week and I'd find someone who would come in for two days.  The way the conversation went she agreed to all the options I offered (I'll get at least one kid dressed, make their breakfast or start feeding them, get their bag and snacks together for the park, take my son to preschool, enroll him in an extra day of preschool,etc), but then said she couldn't leave this job or cut back to three days a week because she loves my kids and she's never left any nanny job before the kids go to school.  I had to leave for work, so I just said okay...but then I realized... wait -- I just agreed to do everything that I would have to do for my kids if they were in daycare (thereby forgoing the benefits of having a nanny in the morning) and I just agreed to pay for an extra day of preschool for my son while also continuing to pay our nanny a really good salary w/ health care.....WTF?  And then once I started doing the things I said I would do, I can tell she feels guilty and she started back tracking on the no overtime and extra day of preschool.  She seems tired all the time, yawning a LOT, she seems very disorganized, she shows up 15-20 minutes late most mornings, she doesn't pick up like she used to....I mean the burn out is obvious.  And I really can't keep up all the things I offered to do to help her -- it was supposed to be a temporary fix until she decided to move on or cut back.  And I feel like I've had several conversations with her about this and it doesn't seem to help or sink in or the conversation just goes off track.  I really thought she'd be with us for years.  It makes me sick to think of finding someone else.  But I don't know what to do.  She came so highly, highly recommended and she was so awesome the first year and a half.  But something has definitely changed.  and if she can't take care of two kids because it's too much work....then I guess it's time to move on?[/quote]

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