Reply to Nanny using negative language around infants

Forum Index » Employer Issues

Reply to "Nanny using negative language around infants"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]"Nanny, Can we talk about something?  I want you to know how much we value the care you give the babies.  I feel so good knowing that I can leave them in your safe loving care.  I need to ask you to make one change though - we would prefer that you not make the joking comments about being lazy and spoiled, or having a temper because they're crying in hunger, etc...  I know you are kidding, and don't really think that they are lazy or throwing temper tantrums but I just don't like hearing those kinds of negative words used to describe them.  Ok?"

That starts it.  Then every time she makes a comment that you don't like (assume it's a joking thing, not a serious slam of the infant) you counter with "Oh no, you're not lazy - you're a baby - of course you can't hold your bottle yet!" lightly,  and with humor.  Hopefully she'll get the message.  If not, then you reiterate the conversation.  "Nanny, you may think this is silly, but we care about this issue and do not want our kids described this way - even in fun."

You'll have to see if this is something you all can work out over time.  I can see how this might be an issue 2 and 3 years from now when you really are dealing with actual tantrums etc... (Especially with twins - my b/g twins are 3 and the tantrums, power struggles, attention demanding behaviors are no joke at all!)

Good luck.

Also, FWIW, I don't think this is a silly or trivial issue.  Language matters even more as the kids become verbal.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics