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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It isn't up to OP to stop this behavior, but his parents responsibility.  If one of my kids ever acted like this, I would have accepted this as my responsibility, not the au pairs.u[/quote]

No, parents can't just "stop" a child's behavior short of physically retraining the child at all times. It's up to the parents to "address" the behavior. In any good child care situation, the provider will work with the parents on the issue since changing a behavior requires consistency. I think the OP is doing the right thing by trying to help come up with a solution and it sounds like they are on the right track. The thing is, nothing is going to work overnight. My only advice to OP that hasn't been mentioned is not to talk to the child about leaving. One of our APs told our 6 year old she was afraid I was going to be mad about something and she "really wanted to be our AP."  My DD became very worried that we planned on firing the AP and was afraid to tell me what was bothering her.  The stress gave her a stomach ache  and she couldn't sleep until  we finally talked about it.  Point being, kids don't know how to handle stuff like that.  If he has trouble dealing with transitions, think of how scary it could be to think of you leaving and, on top of it, to think he caused it.  More than likely, that stress will make him react with even more intensity since he doesn't know how to manage his feelings.  If you are 95% happy, I'm not sure why this would cause you to rematch. However, if you are seriously thinking about it, you should keep those thoughts away from the children and discuss them with the parents and local contact. [/quote]

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