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[quote=Anonymous]I have been with NF for about 3.5 years since their oldest DD was six weeks.  I grew very close to MB and DB, as well as to NK.  Their oldest was a super happy and easy baby.  Essentially perfect, despite a slight physical birth defect that has been corrected.

MB had DD #2 in February after a tough pregnancy, and borderline traumatic birth.  She is an extremely difficult child, very high needs but fairly happy (a bit temperamental).  I can see they really struggled after her birth, and things have not improved which has put MB in a horrible mood and DB very distant.  I work 10 hours a day, five days a week while MB and DB work.  The difference between how things were with DD #1 and DD #2 is extreme.  MB was treated for PPD, and DB for stress and anxiety issues.  She is very open with me, often too open. She told me the other day that she and DB resent DD #2 and feel like she is tearing their family apart.  She says she knows that's not realistic, and an infant does not have the ability to be evil or bad but that she often feels like DD #2 is a punishment for her past discretions (she didn't elaborate).   It seems to me like they are slowly loosing it, and although I really doubt they would ever hurt DD #2 or neglect her the way she is treated compared to DD #1 is a bit alarming.  I have offered to watch DD #2 Friday and Saturday night to take off some of the stress, but I really don't know what else I can do.  I just assure her that eventually things will get better.  However, everything has just been slowly getting worse and worse...I see complete personality changes.  I personally can deal with DD #2 pretty well, but I am not sleep deprived as they are so I can see how it is worse for them.  What else can I do to help them and DD #2?[/quote]

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