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[quote=Anonymous]I was a FT summer nanny throughout college, and remember dealing with situations like you describe. I recall one particular moment where after telling a child (5 yo) several times that she needed to go to her room so she could have a chance to have a break and regroup, and was met with her continuous refusal, whining, complaining, etc, I shouted something to the effect of "LARLA STOP!" My outburst was shocking to us both, and certainly isn't something I'm proud of, but I do think it really helped her realize I was at my endpoint. Afterwards we apologized and moved on to have a great rest of the summer.

I think kids sometimes have a difficult time feeling empathy for adults. And that's fair enough as they're still learning and don't really understand what adults deal with each day. But a day like the one you describe is a great opportunity to explore this empathy. In your case I think this is not just an opportunity to evaluate their own behavior as you mentioned, but also to evaluate the idea that grown-ups have feelings too. And kids are fully capable of hurting the feelings of adults by ignoring them/misbehaving. When I've had this type of "you are capable of hurting my feelings' conversation with a child, it's typically been mind blowing to them. So it might be a worthwhile conversation after the type of day you've all had.[/quote]

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