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We have a part-time nanny this summer.  She is a great person-patient, kind and creative.

Today she took my three small children to the playground and apparently they were very demanding and unpleasant to her.  She texted me to tell me she was coming home early and that in fact she needed to leave early (implying that things had gone very bad and she needed a break).  We have a VERY flexible schedule and often schedule hours the day of.  She is home from college and works an internship and has other activities so we schedule daily hours here and there.

I tried to process things a bit with her when she got home- to get examples of the kids' behavior.  She said they were demanding and rude and whined/cried the whole time.  It sounded miserable and I have had days like this with them, it's unfortunately not atypical for them when they are over-tired or just having a bad day.  They can be very overwhelming- not so much in terms of behavior like hitting,  but just exhausting in terms of whininess, weepiness and rude demands ("come here now! help me now!, etc)

She is heading back to school soon so I don't really know how much processing to do at this point.  I asked if she would like to take tomorrow off and she is scheduled to come help us on Friday.  After she left I tried to process with my kids about what happened and we talked about how they could make it better, apologize for their behavior and try again.

I have advised my nanny in the past that when she is out with the kids and they are acting up- she might set a limit with them and if they do not respect the limit to come home. It sounds like she waited until she was really at her wit's end before saying it's time to go home.  We have a relatively open relationship and I want to ask her if she is okay- if she is burnt out, if she is taking care of herself.  I tried to emphasize with her on the way out today and she just seemed miserable, teary-eyed, etc.

Thoughts on what to say or do? I said I would email her tonight to process a bit more and work out details for next few days.[/quote]

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