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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our nanny has increasingly been taking our kids to either her house or her family's house during the day.  It used to be like once a quarter, now it's at least once a week, if not more (I think she's not telling us every time she does it).  She sent us a picture last week of our baby on a bed that we didn't recognize and she told me it's her bed at home.

This make me uncomfortable.  I can't entirely articulate why though.  For her mom's house, part of it is because I know my baby is being passed around to a number of people (she has a big family that often congregates there) and that just isn't ok with me, even though the baby is 9 months and past the initial newborn phase.

Any suggestions on how to word this?  Am I just being overprotective?  It just seems weird to me.[/quote]

I'm of two minds about this.

Your baby does not NEED to be at anyone else's house; she does need to be out and about (even at 9mo), but not necessarily at another home. I suspect the reason it makes you a bit uneasy is because there is no oversight at all - no neighbors or other mothers seeing what they're up to, no children's librarian who might mention how sweetly your nanny engaged with your daughter, etc.

On the other hand...1) your nanny is certainly lonely for adult interaction and it sounds, with a large family passing her around, like your daughter is very well cared for at her home and 2) a change of scenery and/or toys is really, really beneficial for kids. Even babies. Their attention span is longer and it helps with any anxiety that might exist surrounding new spaces.

So. You are the mother, and you can absolutely say something if you want to - and perhaps you do want to ask that she avoid handing the baby around to anyone until she's finished receiving her vaccinations at twelve months? But if I were you I'd do a bit more soul searching to figure out what the issue actually is so you can address that. Instead of saying it makes you uncomfortable, period, you'll be able to articulate why and make more specific requests. In terms of addressing any issues with your nanny, that is my best advice: be very, very clear about your concerns, your wants and needs, and your expectations. Broaching it before you've really sussed out your own feelings is likely to make the nanny defensive because your language will be too vague.[/quote]

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