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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First, you are absolutely judging her.  You need to let go of what you think about her parenting and find a way to support her in what she says she wants.  What she wants is a baby who is more flexible.  She is not a first-time mom, and it is entirely possible that she was spoiled within easy first baby and simply thinks that you are not as good at getting the baby on a routine as their previous nanny must have been.  I would ask for a time for her to sit down and talk to you.  Let her know that you understand how important a routine is and that as a newly single mom she probably has very busy weekends and is doing her best to fit it all in.  Talk to her about what you think is reasonable: how often do you think the baby needs to eat? What routine do you think would be best for the baby in an ideal world?  Now, instead of assuming that the mom should just throw everything else in her life out the window and do what you think is ideal from the babies perspective, assume that the baby is part of a family unit and that your job is to figure out away to get his needs met while also fitting into that unit.  Create a game plan that is based on both the babies needs and what your employer is telling you she needs.  Present that plan to her.  If you think that that plan is still going to be unworkable for her (if you think that what she is wanting is simply not realistic for your charge), I would talk to her about some other possibilities, such as hiring a mother's helper for some weekend hours so that the baby can get through this stage.  How old is your charge?  Because ReFLEX and eating problems are absolutely things that the charge should be growing out of in the next six months if he/she is an infant.  If you present it to your boss as a situation where she might have to hire extra support short-term so that her baby can make the smoothest transition toward long-term health and happiness, she may be more open to that then you simply telling her that this is what her baby needs and expecting her to bend over backwards indefinitely.[/quote]

MB used to be a stay-at-home mom so they never had a previous nanny. I've done all the above you have said and I am still at a dead end. MB will be up for it until she has a party to go to or a new boyfriend and everything turns to hell. It's exhausting dealing with going back and forth on all of this. I can't efficiently and effectively do my job if she isn't willing to help work with me on this. My charge is 15 months. He has severe reflux among another sensitive condition which makes it harder on him to eat enough at one sitting or going more than 2 hours between eating. [/quote]

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