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[quote=Anonymous]I have a boy I watch a couple of long days twice a week twice a year (his dad does seasonal photography for a couple of companies catalogs.) He is 3.5, so a bit younger than your boy, but he does get emotional throughout the day, particularly mornings and particularly at the beginning of each season. It gets better as time wears on. What seems to help my kid somewhat is to 1.) validate his feelings. "I know you miss dad. It's hard to play at someone else's house when you'd rather be at home." Things like that. 2.) Find out if he's hungry. My boy is much more emotional when hungry or tired. Offer a snack, something you know he likes...berries, crackers, whatever he'll eat. 3.) Require a rest or nap time to recharge. Even if it's an hour and a half laying on the couch watching a movie (if they're tired they'll fall asleep.) Require he lay down, turn the lights off, make the room as dark, cool and restful as you can. 4.) Give him an itinerary. This morning we're going to X, then lunch, then rest, then X, then dad comes! Help him know what to expect as the day goes on. Remind him throughout the day. Now lunch, then rest, then X, then dad etc. 5.) Distract with toys. Can you go wake up the firetruck? The firetruck misses you! What's the firetruck going to do today? Things like that.

It should get better. Focus on his strengths. Not all boys are good at coloring or even enjoy doing it. IT has nothing to do w/ intelligence, and everything to do w/ small muscle coordination. If he's bad at coloring, don't force it on him. Get him on your side by being your helper...hey Archie, can you help me make popcicles (or whatever.) Let him do things he enjoys and everyone will be happier.[/quote]

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