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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Jeez OP, she was just asking. It was a yes or no question. No need to feel taken advantage of or like it was an aggressive act on her part. SHE WAS JUST ASKING. If the answer is no, just say no. If you never ask for anything in life, then you never get anything. If you do ask for something, maybe you'll get it, maybe you won't, but you definitely won't if you don't ask.  Haven't you ever asked an employer for ANYTHING?

Relax or this parenting thing is going to be really hard on you.[/quote]

I completely disagree.  [b]IT DOES HURT TO ASK[/b].  The MB/DB are now in an unpleasant situation.  The nanny should have known better than to ask such a huge imposition on the family she is working for.  People do not like to say "no" in general - so be very judicious about when you feel you should put them, and you, in the position of denying or being denied a request.

I have quit nanny jobs for being asked various favors too often.  I got tired and increasingly uncomfortable always having to say no.

This nanny was wrong in even asking!  She is asking if she can take care of another baby with the OP's baby 20% of her work time!  One day a week - 20% of her paid hours!  [/quote] wah,  they're in an unpleasant situation. We can't have that now,  can we?  Everyone must be completely comfortable at all times. OP needs to keep in mind that while she absolutely has the right to say no,  it puts her in the situation where she really can't ask for any favors from the nanny either. [/quote]

Nonsense.  The nanny was way out of line.  This "favor" request was beyond the pale.  Of course both nanny and MB can request reasonable favors from each other in the future - asking someone to work late occasionally or take a morning off is hardly the same as asking that one-fifth of paid work time be split between your baby and the nanny's baby.

It's sad that you cannot understand that.  Your work life in any field will be difficult for you.    [/quote]

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