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[quote=Anonymous]Are you feeling burdened by the number of calls or are you just getting cold feet because you are questioning why your experience was so different from what others have reported to you?  If the former, you might try giving the nanny a letter of reference and telling her that you would prefer to only talk to prospective employers who have already made a conditional offer that she is ready to accept, pending a positive reference check with you.  It might hurt her chances a bit, but would not be unreasonable on your part.

However, I don't think it is fair to withhold future references simply because you are second-guessing your judgment or her character based on the fact that others' experiences were different from your own.  If you were happy with her, that's what you should report.

If the ex-nanny is pursuing shares, that could explain her inability to hold jobs.  Most shares fall apart in a year or less, when one of the children gets a daycare slot or one of the families has a second child.  Alternatively, some nannies start out great, then pick up a certain rigidness from other nannies who convince them that nannies shouldn't do laundry, should only clean up messes made on their watch, should charge extra for this, that, the other thing, etc.  Same with money.  Some nannies hear that other nannies make $20+ per hour and they think all they need to do to earn on par with that that's their rate.  Nannies who don't provide value on par with their income expectations typically have trouble holding on to jobs.  I know of two families who told a so-so nanny that they would be putting their child in daycare or getting an au pair, when they really just planned to hire a better nanny.

BTW, I find it hard to believe that multiple moms who have hired your ex-nanny called you after the fact to report her shortcomings. Maybe one if you knew her from around town, but I've never heard of anyone circling back to old references to report a disappointing experience with an employee. [/quote]

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