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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm an MB w/ 2 1/2 yr old twins who I expect to say please, thank you, excuse me, you're welcome, etc...

I often behave the way your nanny does - making them ask nicely before they get what they want, having them clean up after themselves, refusing to move onto the next fun thing until they've done what I ask, etc...

Your nanny sounds great to me!

My kids are not perfect on these things I ask of them, but they're learning, and they are learning that this is how our family works - we all pitch in, we're all polite to other people, we take turns, tantrums aren't rewarded and so on.   I want them to grow up this way - not suddenly have a new set of rules and expectations thrust upon them.

You may not be giving your 2 yr old enough credit for the things he is capable of understanding and doing.  Your nanny may be very experienced and fully aware that a 2 yr old is developmentally very different than a 1 year old and the next year or two are pretty huge for establishing patterns of behavior and interaction.

Seriously  - I'm not trying to be snarky - I am constantly surprised at the things my kids understand and can do.  And I'm a little sad to see all the baby days behind us.  But holding them back isn't doing them (or you) any favors in the long run.  Wouldn't you love for your son to be the child who impresses other people with his lovely manners, who cleans up after himself as a matter of habit (not after a battle), who grows into playing a useful role in the family?  Your nanny is showing you how that starts.[/quote]

^^A mom that understands!

OP, I do exactly what your nanny does but I start even younger. As soon as they learn to talk or sign, please and thank you are the first and last words out of their mouth. When they start walking well, they can start cleaning up and putting plates in the sink. A two year old is no longer a baby and is capable of so much! Don't hinder his potential by excusing his behavior based on age. He would be asked to do the same things in daycare, preschool and in society no matter what.  Your nanny sounds extremely experienced and I'm sure she fills his day with fun while teaching him to respect others and his belongings.

I would say you're behind on the manners, he should already be saying please without much prompting. [/quote]

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