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[quote=Anonymous]MB here with a DD the same age, who has had the same person caring for her for the same amount of time.

It's weird and too much. Firstly, he always follows my rules unless he absolutely can't (like if I lay out her clothes before leaving for work and then the weather changes he'll choose something else more appropriate). Secondly, he completely backs DH and me up on whatever we say to her. His idea of spoiling her is throwing her up in the air more times than I would, or being a human horse for her or being willing to do messy art projects I won't do. Experiences, not material things. He bought her a Supergirl t-shirt for Christmas, but is not buying her anything on the regular. Thirdly, unless he left on a Friday afternoon while she was under the weather he never contacts us over the weekend. Maybe he's done it twice? Fourthly, he is respectful of how little time we get with her, so he always has her home and pumped to see us when we walk in the door after work.

Now that I'm thinking about your post, he does sometimes say to her, "How's my best girl?" or something like that, but she is MY baby and your nanny saying "My baby!" seems a little Hand Rocking the Cradle for my comfort.

The reason it's sort of okay for grandparents to spoil is because of the idea that it's infrequent. If your nanny is doing all these things regularly, it becomes the norm. Yes, there is absolutely such a thing as "too close." And I think your nanny is it. [/quote]

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