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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have cameras out in the open and we told people when they interviewed about them.  I've posted before about this issue and spoken to a lot of people in real life and the point of them really is not to detect abuse.  You need to put the work in to check the nanny's background and references to know she isn't going to intentionally physically harm your children.  Besides, wouldn't you rather prevent abuse than catch it?  If the nanny knows you have cameras wouldn't she be less likely to do something?[/quote]

So what is the point of your cameras?

I don't think a camera in the living room that the nanny knows about would prevent her from doing anything she might have otherwise done if there was no camera. She just won't do it in the living room.

I think the cameras server a purpose because no matter how much you ask, how many references you check, etc you never know. Plus anyone can have a bad day and haul off and smack.[/quote]

I can't speak for everyone because everyone has their own reasons for having cameras but [i]I[/i] have them because it helps me see how the nanny interacts with DCs when I'm not around.  I'll give you an example:  A few years ago we were looking for a nanny.  "Mary" had 2 children of her own the same ages as mine and lots of great references.  The first time she came to our home for an interview she was great with my DCs.  We did a couple of trial days and all was good.  She started working for us and on her first day I was working a half day.  I told her I'd be home sometime around 2.  DC#1 usually napped around 1:30.  Well, I got done early with work and decided to run some errands but needed to stop at home first.  As I was arriving home I checked the cameras to see where in the house they were to see if I could sneak in and out.  It was noon and I saw that DC#1 was in his bed, 1 1/2 hrs before his usual nap time, but not asleep.  I thought maybe he seemed extra tired so she put him down early.  While I was still in the garage the nanny opened the door and was surprised to see me but went back in the house.  By the time I got into the house DC#1 was downstairs, not in his bed.  I told her I knew he'd been in bed and she said she hadn't realized how early it was and had put him down by mistake and when she realized she went up and got him.  I gave her the benefit of the doubt but kept watching the cameras.  I noticed that she was different with DC#1 when I wasn't around.  DC#2 was a baby at the time and she was really sweet and great with him but just had no patience with my 2 year old DC#1.  She didn't do anything even close to abusive, she didn't yell at him but she just didn't click with him.  She clearly preferred playing with the baby than the older one.  She was totally different when I was around.  Eventually we let her go and found someone who was a better fit and that DC#1 was much happier with.  The thing is though I would never have known any of this without the cameras.  It's not like she was being abusive at all it just seemed like she didn't like DC#1 but would always just tell me that he was sweet and good.  [/quote]

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