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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What's the going rate for one 2.5 year old in falls church/arlington? She's in school 3x/wk now from 915-1215; 5 days in the fall. Just her for now, but baby #2 is due in November.[/quote]
Your biggest chalenge will be finding anyone who wants you down her neck for six months. 
Most nannies won't even consider that.

You'll do better with a young mother's helper, not a nanny.
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Since DH and I work FT outside the home, that's not an option.[/quote]

Just so you know, most nannies hate having the mother home when they are taking care of a two to four year old child.  The majority of children will constantly want Mommy or will not listen to the nanny if she can run to Mommy and undermine nanny's authority.  Nap times, meal times, time-outs, etc. can be so difficult for the nanny when the mother is present.

Just keep that in mind.  I know I wouldn't apply for your position knowing you'd be home for months but I would be very interested if it was just your 2.5 year old and a baby.   [/quote]

I understand. We have been in a share until now, and were hoping to continue through my leave (with our nanny watching DD while I dealt with the baby most of the time), but our share partners (who had their second in march), just announced they want our nanny to themselves effective early June, so we're in a bit of a scrambling, awkward spot. I don't want to cause additional disruption for DD
 by having another short term "patch," when we're hoping to build a long term relationship with someone, but I know it's a challenge.[/quote]
It can help if you have a big house, so you can maintain at least physical boundaries.[/quote]

MB here, and I'm getting a bit fed up with some of the responses on this forum.  For example, the part about nannies only working for someone if the parent is fully  out of the house, otherwise the children won't listen to the nanny.  That is not true.  I am a WOHM who has teleworked fairly regularly since DD was an infant.  She has a set schedule and does not run to me if I am in my office working.  Even when I come down during lunch, my DD knows that our nanny is in charge of the schedule, etc.  Also, my DH, nanny and I have worked together (more than 2.5 yrs so far) to set up a good routine for our DD when it comes to naps and schedule.  We've told DD that she needs to listen to all of us.

With respect to maternity leave, it's better for the baby if the mom is able to stay home longer.  I am on maternity leave with our youngest and am exclusively pumping so I need to have another adult watch the baby.  It also helps for me to catch up on sleep so I have more energy to help out during the evenings and weekends when DH is not at work.  He handles all the night feedings while I'm pumping.  We are paying our nanny for two kids (since we came home from the hospital), but we tag team.  For example, she took our oldest to a sports class this morning, while I stayed home and watched the infant.  As soon as they got back, I ran upstairs and am pumping now as I type this.  If my nanny is helping out with the youngest, I am generally throwing loads of kids' laundry in the machine or helping put the older one down for a nap.[/quote]

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