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[quote=Anonymous]No, that is not micromanaging. Have you asked her what time they go down? Is she putting them down at the same time as you and they're just sleeping longer or do you have to wake them from their naps on the weekends also? If she's putting them down later, ask why and advise on how you'd like to adjust. If not, formal warning and reiterate they must be up no later than X in order to go to bed on time.

However, I know a nanny whose charge has been put to bed at 11pm or later his entire life for the sake of his parents' social lives. Every day is a series of emotional meltdowns and physical assaults (by him). His parents don't believe he even needs a nap anymore and tell her not to bother (they've been saying this since before he turned 1). Since he sleeps until 9am he often goes down to nap around 2-3 and (since she knows he is consistently sleep deprived) she will let him sleep as late as he wants on her watch (often until 5p). IMO she is taking better care of his developmental needs than his parents are, but yes, technically she is ignoring their requests. This is all to say NO you are not micromanaging and assuming all else is equal (kids aren't sick and go to bed at a reasonable hour) she should be following your instructions. If there is weird sleep deprivation principles going on in your household, though, like the family I know, you will have a difficult time finding any good nanny willing to subject children to an absurd sleep routine that ignores all of their physical, emotional, and developmental needs. [/quote]

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