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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]As long as you continue to set boundaries and enforce rules while they are under your care then I don't understand what the issue is. Children grow up in households where caregivers are not on the same page all the time - and children learn to adapt based on the expectations set for them. Yes, consistency is great but children are incredibly able when it comes to adapting.
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This poster is spot on. You sound very rigid, OP. there is no reason parents should change what they do just because you think you're right about the best way to do parent.

You definitely need to find a new job. The family may be surprised, but they'll find a new nanny and everything will be fine.[/quote]

MB here.  I agree with both of these posters.

I would not be receptive to being asked to change my parenting style to accommodate you.  These are my kids, in my house, and you are being paid to care for them as my husband and I choose.

Now, do I believe that my kids can handle different styles?  Absolutely.  Am I ok w/ that on issues that don't pertain to basic safety, physical discipline, excessive screen time, healthy diet, etc...?  Yes.  Our nanny (only nanny my toddlers have ever had) has a very different style in many ways than mine.  She puts them down for naps differently, handles mealtime differently, handles their tantrums more patiently, etc...  Her way works.  My way works.  The kids are perfectly able to respond well to the different approaches and they are the better for it IMO.  And our nanny is happier being able to do things largely her way.  However, we agree on discipline and big picture concepts.

If we did not agree on those things, or if she was unwilling (or unable) to care for our children in the way we specify, then she and we are not a good fit for either side.[/quote]

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