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[quote=Anonymous]I am a nanny.  In life generally, I tend not to bring things up every time something bothers me.  Instead, I wait to see if it is part of a pattern before bringing up (e.g., if a college roommate didn't do their dishes, I would wait to see if this is a pattern of behavior or just a busy day).

As a nanny, I don't want to be too demanding/critical/negative towards my employers, but I also don't want to just find a new position without trying to address things.  I am not talking about job creep (although similar answers may apply), but more about little things that show that MB or DB and I are not on the same page regarding my role or discipline or family culture, etc.

My current family has a very different approach to discipline (I am very big on positive discipline, they tend to vary depending on the issue, but we don't sync up very often).  I don't think I will be happy here much longer, and I don't want to blindside them, but  I also don't know how to address things that aren't a problem so much as a different viewpoint.

What kinds of things do you feel are worth bringing up to your boss?  Do you wait until it is clear that something is a dealbreaker for you, or do you bring things up even if they may only be a minor difference?  What kind of language do you use?

Employers:  would you be upset if a nanny asked you to adjust your parenting style so that she could be more comfortable?  Would it make a difference if it was a nanny with a history with your family that you really valued?  How do you prefer these things be handled?[/quote]

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