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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you are rigth in thinking that it can be a problem, especially since she is family. obviously you are the only person who can decide if this is going to work for you or not. but in your message you seem to have some assumtions you'd better clarify to her. you say it would be good to your DD to be exposed to another language. it is not obvious that a young woman spending a year in DC on a fellowship may want to spend time talking to a toddler. she may, she may not. if you expect that, tell her. also, one additional adult adds costs to a household, if you go to the refrigerator to start dinner and dinner is gone, you would be angry. make sure you talk about that. also, expectations about dating and personal life seem not reasonable to me. her boyfriend is in the midwest. how would you feel if he visits in your home  for a week? two weeks? if she brakes up with the boyfriend and finds another locally, can she brings him home? can she invite friends home? you need to discuss all this before. you say you expect her to keep her bathroom clean. you'd better clarify this too. life with two kids is hectic and your tolerance level toward your cousin will be much lower than when she briefly visited you in DC years ago before kids. a year is a long time. it may work, but you need to set expectations extremely clear well before she arrives, do not assume anything  [/quote]

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