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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Keep it simple. You are not a good fit for this family. Quit and give only this explanation.

From your posts, it's obvious you see yourself and your principles as superior to your employers'. You can think that, of course, however, no one but you cares and your judgmental attitude, if made obvious, could damage you in your job search.

So, keep it to yourself and just quit.[/quote]

This attitude cracks me up. How dare the nanny with extensive experience training and education in the field of caring for and educating children, perhaps even raised children of her own, think she knows better than the parent (most of whom are first time parents). I would venture to guess that you, as a professional in your field, have opinions as to the best way to accomplish your job? And if you had a boss with a totally different way and was not interested in letting you use your experience and training, you might feel uncomfortable or unhappy and want to seek a better fit? OP said nothing to indicate that she feels superior. She has her way, they have theirs, and its not a good fit. [/quote]

OP here.  I agree that this poster is a bit much.  I actually don't think my way is "better"--because I don't think there is One True Way to raise kids.  But there are ways of working with kids that work for me and ring true to me and they don't share that sensibility.  As I posted earlier, the big problem is that our mindsets are so different that I can't trust my judgement.  E.g., something I think is a totally healthy meal (homemade quiche with lots of veggies and full-fat cheese) they think is unhealthy (full-fat dairy is too high calorie for their toddler).  An activity I think is great (running around on a tennis court chasing a ball) they think is dangerous (should only run on soft surfaces).  Everything is about balancing different competing priorities, and when the priorities are different for nanny or parent, then the nanny is stuck doing things "wrong" or basically asking them to micromanage me.  I would rather find someone with the same priorities, who will be thrilled with activities, food and discipline choices that come naturally to me than work to fit a square peg into a round hole.[/quote]

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