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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1.  I would not appreciate you not correcting the kids when they call you mom, but I'd let it slide if you were overall a great nanny.  But would still bother me.

2.  Texting constantly on the weekends to see what "your kids" are up to.  Creepy.  Maybe one text if there was something big going on but not constantly over mundane stuff

3. Coming over the house on your off days.  Just weird.  Don't you have friends and family to spend the holidays with?

4. Spending all your free time doing stuff for my kids.  Again, don't you have a life outside of them?

Like I said, it isn't one of these things it is ALL of them together.  It paints the picture that your entire life is wrapped up in kids who are not yours.  Which is incredibly creepy from a bosses perspective.   [/quote]

I'm an MB and I agree with these points.  I am sure your employer family really appreciates you, and how you care for the children.  However you are not family - you are an employee.  You are not a parent.  You will not be with the children for their whole lives.  You may not be their only nanny, and these may not be your only charges.  Establishing, maintaining, and respecting boundaries and the professional relationship takes work on all sides.  Our family has a nanny who has been with us for several years and is terrific.  However, she is also increasingly overstepping boundaries (showing up on weekends, buying too many presents for the kids, displaying and cultivating an overly personal attachment) and it is jeopardizing her position.  My husband and I are having active conversations about whether dealing with her increasingly personal involvement is worth it or whether it would be less stressful for us to simply replace her with someone with more professional detachment.

You don't want to find yourself in that position.

And the calling you Mom2 thing?  Totally, unequivocally, not ok in my book.  You should be actively correcting that.  They can have cute pet names for you, but you should not in any way be encouraging them to call you Mom.

I am sure you are very well-meaning and sweet but you need to learn how to treat your work as a job - not your personal life.  That doesn't mean you can't love the children, but you do need to have better boundaries.[/quote]

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