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[quote=Anonymous]"but when I'm not doing something with the baby I'd like to be with my other children too. "

This will be too disruptive. Given the dynamic you described where your kids like your nanny but don't flock to her like she's the best thing since sliced bread, for your kids' sake you really need to essentially hand the older ones over to the nanny while she is at your house. your kids will adjust to not seeing you for x hours on y days much better than you coming in and out and changing stuff around all the time.

I say this as someone who tried to do too much of the latter when I had DC2 and it was just not good for DC1. She did much better when I finally realized I just need to pick a routine and stick to it and that entailed her being out of the house for most of the time to avoid wanting to come to mommy when home if i was busy with the baby.

Nanny can take oldest to school at 9 and take #2 along with her (or leave #2 at home for drop off). Then she takes #2 out & about for rest of AM - they do an outing, have a playdate, whatever - they are gone and #2 comes along for pick up of #1. Back home for lunch & naps (so occupied entire time). Unless you're sure you can regularly commit to putting #1 and #2 down for naps - leave this to nanny. Maybe you could fix them lunch so that it's ready when they get back from the school, which would be super helpful and also minimize antsiness by #1 and #2 while nanny fixes lunch.

Once both kids are up they are nanny's again. If they nap for more than 1 hour, then ask nanny to help prep dinner & set table  so that you can ideally "handle" dinner on your own by just needing to finish it off. You can't have her clock in and out for naps unless you don't need her at all from like 12:30 - 5/5:30 so that she could at least potentially find an after school job to fill those gap hours.

it will be hard to not spend as much time with your oldest 2 but it really will be better for them to minimize disruption by putting them on a routine and not having you pop in and out randomly whenever you want/can.[/quote]

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