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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a strict nanny but every kid I've ever worked with loves me anyway. It's because even though I'm strict and don't let kids get away with much, I never yell and I also balance it out with plenty of fun and silly things. Like others said, plan some fun things for them to do together over break so he starts top associate her with fun and not just discipline. And then talk to your nanny to find out exactly how she is correcting hos behavior and try to come up with some ideas together to make this transition easier on the BOTH of them. I'm sure this is no fun for your nanny either![/quote]

ITA.  Is your nanny have a lot of experience with this age group? Especially with starting out at this age rather than starting out with the baby and growing into this age?

Being a strict disciplinarian is fine, but it has to fit into the overall context of the relationship.  Discipline coming from a caregiver with whom you have an overall loving and positive relationship feels very different from discipline coming from a caregiver who feels like a stranger.  When I start out with a new family where the children are older, I tend to set boundaries very lightly when I first start, then ramp up expectations after a positive fun and loving relationship has been more established.  I go out of my way to find positive things to do with the children so that we can bond and connect so that I will have a foundation of love on which to build a discipline environment.  It sounds to me like your nanny doesn't understand how to do this.  My guess is that she came in and immediately started cracking down and calling him on things with the expectation that he of Bayhurst simply because she is big and he is little rather than from a deeper understanding that she loves him and has his best interest at heart.[/quote]

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