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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD has had the same nanny for five years, basically her whole life. The first few years, we didn't invite her to birthdays or anything because we didn't want her to feel obligated to come to our house on her day off.

The last two years, DD has been inviting the nanny on her own to come to her birthdays. I talked to the nanny about it and told her that she didn't have to come and had a talk with DD about how she and nanny could have a separate birthday celebration because nanny might have plans on her party day. DD was ok with this.

Nanny, though said she would love to come. I made it clear that she was free to come and go as she liked and was expected only to be a guest and have a good time...she was not responsible for looking after kids or cleaning up or anything that looks like work.

So, the last few years nanny has dropped in for part of the celebration, had cake with us and hung out with the adults and left when she felt like it. It's great. She is an important part of DD's life and we all love her. If she decided she didn't want to attend, it would be fine.

No good MB would think poorly of you as an employee if you didn't attend a birthday party. If an MB did, you need a new job.
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I think this is great how you handled the situation with your nanny and I'd like to think OPs NF is the same but the reason I think the nanny should go has nothing to do with the parents.  You are right that a good MB would never think poorly of the nanny for not coming but the child specifically said how much he wants her to come.  If the parents were smart they'd do what you did but if they didn't then he will be disappointed.  I know it's not the nanny's job to parent the child but if it's not super inconvenient and she does love the child I don't think it will kill her to show up briefly, say she has somewhere else to be and make the child happy she came for a short time.[/quote]

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