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[quote=Anonymous]Long story short- I'm a government contractor and probably about to get the ax due to budget issues.  We have a nice nanny that we've shared with another couple since our kids were 12 weeks old.  Now that my daughter is approaching 2, we've decided to go the daycare route- for many reasons.  Obviously, the first is that we are BLEEDING cash to said nanny every month- she is paid for 50 hours (with legit overtime) regardless of how many hours she works in a week (I'd say she averages around 30-40 a week for us), federal holidays, took a paid 3 week trip home this year, snow days- the works.  That is our immediate concern- obviously, if I don't have a job, neither does she.  Over the past year and a half, though, she's become more and more insistent on "her ways" (aka- my daughter doesn't want to nap in her crib so she lets her nap on the couch even though we've asked repeatedly for her not to do this), always complains about money, has gone from doing family laundry and light straightening to leaving the even the baby toys out, always used to show up early and now shows up right on time or a few minutes late and leaves the second after I get the daily report.  We've discussed her bolting at night, "Hey, Larla, it's only 4:30 and I'd really hoped to make dinner.  Would you mind staying till 5:30?" and she'll say yes but back to putting the coat on routine as she spouts off nap/lunch/playtime facts the next day.  I think I could have been way more forceful early on and in fear of pissing a perfectly good nanny off, I let a lot of things go that I shouldn't have.  I just look back on the birthday gifts, the Christmas bonuses, the religious holidays (she's of a different faith but we celebrated their holy days together), the pocket money here and there and honestly, I feel like we made her a part of our family.

We gave our notice (6 weeks vice the 4 in our contract) yesterday and it did NOT go well.  The other family intends on finding another family to replace us and to keep her on.  She was insistent that they'll never find someone in 6 weeks time, she needs more money, right down to the minute- she hates the double stroller we provided her.  I was not expecting her to be cheery at the news, but when I told her that we couldn't imagine our daughter not seeing her occasionally she said that she "works on the weekends".  I get the picture.  The daycare we found has an immediate spot, but we were planning to hold off until after the holidays.  I'm now tempted to just pay the nanny out and start daycare ASAP but that's a lot of cash- 6 weeks of our nanny is over $3,500 and the day care fees would be about $2,200.  Is it worth just paying the nanny out and getting rid of the headache or should we suck it up?  FWIW, I'm not concerned about my daughter's safety, per se ... but clearly she has no emotional attachment to her and what I thought was a close relationship was clearly business to her.  I'm just really bummed out at her reaction and feel sick to know that we genuinely cared about her and know that she doesn't feel the same way about our family.  Stay or go?[/quote]

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