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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I'll be honest, the motivation behind my post was a bit of a need to vent, if only because I am frustrated at my own lack of love for my current position. I took this job, and am sticking with it, because in my area it's like Hunger Games trying to land a decent family (the culture down here is very family oriented with relatives doing much more childcare than hired help).

In every other position I've had, I loved the kids. They were all 3 years or younger. I'm irritated that I do not get to look forward to work every day anymore.. but I take pride in knowing I am still, despite my lack of motivation, providing top quality care for these children.

As for the PP who said anyone who does not grow to love their charges has a heart of stone, well I'm happy for you because you must have only ever been exposed to wonderful children. I believe that all kids can be helped and that there are no "bad" children, I believe this strongly, but after a certain age when bad habits have become their reality, some kids really do become just nasty little people you would never choose to associate with.

Luckily my charges aren't as bad as all that, though they are being raised to be very spoiled and disrespectful and I cannot love someone I feel truly disrespected by on a daily basis. They both have some lovely qualities and I appreciate them for who they are, but love? Not going to happen.. and my heart is alive and well. [/quote]
I could have written this myself. It is jarring and uncomfortable to feel this way, especially when I compare it to the way I felt and still feel about my last charges, but I do know that 1. My time with these children is temporary, like every other nanny position and one day I will have a job I love again and 2. I am giving top notch care (despite what many of the responders think) and the children feel loved and the parents respect me. 
Don't feel bad or guilty. You just can't love every child/job and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Good luck![/quote]

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