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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]i think it's a good idea to specifically talk about the reasons why you decided your last nanny was not a good fit. Because the reality is that you will be very sensitive to them this time around and so she should know that ahead of time rather than wonder why you might get on her case after a single playdate outing with a slightly mismatched aged kid. The more info she has, the better equipped she is to do what you want.

Also re: letting things slide. I would hate if my boss told me every single thing I did wrong. MBs too weigh which battles to pick and how many times a nanny needs to do something they don't like before making an issue of it. Becasue the reality is that no one cares for your kids exactly as you do (weekends I regularly struggle w/ holding my tongue when DH does something with the kids that is not how I do it; and he's great with them). This can unfortuantely result in situations where a bad behavior goes on too long.[/quote]

I'm the OP.  This is a really good point and I think that's some of why I never said anything.  I'm not going to micromanage and I understand that any care provider is going to do some things differently and that's fine.  I think I didn't have a solid understanding within myself of what I was going to be ok with long-term versus when it started to get to a point where it was below the acceptable level.  What it boiled down to is that my nanny showed me multiple times that she didn't have integrity, which made me question her every move.  She was going to be the type of worker that kept trying to get away with things she knew I wouldn't be happy with.  I can't ever be successful with that type.  I'm going to assume integrity with this new nanny and I think that will help me start fresh, unless she shows me otherwise.[/quote]

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