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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is incredibly frustrating. I'm supposed to be professional and follow our agreement to the letter, that is, until it doesn't suit you. Somehow its okay for MBs to get home late whenever they please, and if we say something "they're paying for 'flexibility'". Its okay for them to expect things of me outside of our agreement, but if I refuse I'm "not going above and beyond". What's wrong with going above and beyond within the confines of my actual job? I don't want to do your laundry/make your dinner/buy your groceries. I take care of CHILDREN, and if you'd let me do it, I do a great job. [/quote]

I'm an MB and no, it's NOT ok for an MB to get home late whenever they please.  It's NOT ok to expect flexibility if you haven't discussed it.  It's NOT ok for them to expect things outside of your agreement.  And there are many MBs who would never do this kind of stuff - so please stop talking in generalizations.  Are there bad MBs?  Yes, definitely.  But as long as we're comparing, it's not so different in the office job world either.  Do you really think in the office job world all bosses expect only exactly what's in the agreement?  Are totally fine with you coming at your start time and leaving at your stop time no matter what crisis has emerged?  Are completely fine with you taking leave whenever you want?  Would hear someone say "I'm not doing that - that's not in my job description" and still think that person was a good performer?

I've had bosses that want you to stay for 10 hours into the evening even though you are only paid for 8 - in many industries, it is completely commonly accepted that you will stay late every single day or you will absolutely get passed over for assignments and promotions.  I've had jobs where I've been asked to do way more than my position description would allow.  You know what though?  You can choose to just do exactly what you're paid for and not stretch or you can choose to find ways to add value in the hopes that you're noticed.  In any job, you will probably be a fine employee right where you are.  In some jobs, that would be seen as doing the bare minimum and everyone will think you're lazy.

Typically in the office world, the people that stretch and show themselves to be willing to go a little extra are the ones who get the promotions and the better assignments and more money and are more in demand.  I can't think it's all that different in the nanny world - but again, it's like any other job.  There are going to be crappy bosses who you can work your butt off for and they still give you nothing in return.  So you know what, you gain your experience, you don't burn the bridge, and you LEAVE.

How is the nanny world really all that different?  You start a job, you work as hard as you can, and if your bosses are people that value you, they will respond by raising your hourly rate, being flexible with you, whatever else it is you want.  Because they'll know you're an employee who is trying their hardest and truly making their lives easier (just like it's my goal to make my boss' life easier at my work).  They will continue to accommodate you and work as a partnership if they want to keep you on.  If you're trying your hardest and you get nothing, then leave.  Find a boss that values you.  Just like in the office world.[/quote]

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