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[quote=Anonymous]We have had a live in nanny for about six months now (we signed a year long contract with a clause that either party could end at any time with 30 days notice)- she was good at first but I'm becoming increasingly underwhelmed and unhappy. The difficult thing is- and this is what I am grappling with - I don't have any issue with the way that she interacts with my children. In fact I think she does a pretty good job with them.

It is more that she is not a respectful "roommate" and also that I am privy to information about her lifestyle that I don't like, because she lives in my house. If she did not live with us, I don't think that I would have too much of an issue- probably the only issue is that she agreed to do light housekeeping for the children when hired (laundry, dishes, etc) and simply does not do these things. I have reminded her and made sure that she had extra time in her schedule to do them, when children are not around, and they still aren't getting done.. which I find to be very frustrating. It would not fly if I just decided that I was going to stop doing part of my job at work.

Other than that, though, it's more about making a LOT of noise, leaving common areas very messy with her own things, strange sleep habits that sort of dictate how loud we feel comfortable being in the home, oversleeping a few times when she is supposed to be on duty, and I also suspect that she has a problem with alcohol. I am a drinker myself, but her consumption is really over the top and somewhat alarming. She has also borrowed my clothes a few times without permission and does not seem to think anything of this.

I guess what I am struggling with is - If someone treats your kids well, but the other stuff isn't so good, is it worth going through the hassle of finding a new nanny? If she did not live with us it would be a much easier decision. I just think it would be a major hassle and quite awkward to fire her and let her continue to live with us for 30 days.  Also, how does it work when you let go of a live in nanny? Do you hire someone else to take over as an interim live-out person while the live-in is still there? That just seems beyond awkward to me, but I do need someone to take care of my children and I am not comfortable with having someone work who has been fired. Also, what if you get stuck with another bad apple? No amount of daytime trial periods would have uncovered what we have been dealing with. I am nervous that if we hire someone else, they'll be even worse.

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