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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are they sick too? If so, I can understand. If not, then don't feel bad at all and enjoy your day off![/quote]
What can you understand?[/quote]

I can understand that if the parents are puking right along with the children that they might have asked her if she could come in.  Not demanded, just asked.  
She also has the right to say no and that is perfectly understandable as well.[/quote]

It would be nice if it were as simple as the parents just asking and nanny saying no, but most of us know that it just isn't. There is always a level of guilt that comes with saying no (hence this thread) and a level of resentment that the parents know its their employees day off and still feel entitled to ask anyways. Unless it is a dire emergency or something incredibly unexpected came up,  parents really should not be contacting the nanny on her day off at all, especially not to come in on their day off/ask where Jack's missing shoe is/to see if they can stay late in three weeks. Boundaries seem to be impossible to establish in this field and, more often than not, it's because the employers can not seem to adhere to them. It's just unfair to put your nanny in these kind of situations. [/quote]

If both the nanny and the family are professional, then there is no harm in asking.  If you really think this then you need to grow up.
As an MB I have never written my nanny on her day off (actually I called once to see if she knew where the diaper bag was and she had accidentally taken it home with her, but I digress) but if an emergency arose I would totally feel reasonable calling to see if our nanny would be able to help.  But I would not be put out if a) our nanny didn't answer the phone or b) she had plans and could not do so.  Likewise, my nanny wouldn't be pissed either.

If you really feel this antagonistic and/or overly emotionally entwined with your MB/DB, that is sad.  But it not necessary or even normal.
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Did you actually read the post, or did you just pick and choose the parts that you didn't like? Or perhaps it's just a bit of a stretch for you to see things from a different perspective. Either way, my point was that nanny/employer relations are often NOT the perfect, professional ones you are apparently used to. There is harm in asking because, more often than not, it turns into a guilt trip. And, again this would require some reading comprehension, I said that it is perfectly acceptable to call/text in emergency situations. Sick children, as in OPs case, arent aemergency and now she is left feeling bad for taking her well earned day off. [/quote]

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