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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've worked for so many families and I am sure 1/2 of the parents who will read this, believe in: time-out, the quarter system and "taking away priveledges." Why don't parents realized this doesn't work? They read these parenting books/magazines and swear by them ! I think it's funny because before all of this technology, people disciplined their kids by teaching them, you work hard for what you want and the good ole' spanking. I would never hit a child, but from all the spoiled brats I encounter and babysit for, I don't understand how parents just let them do what they want. 1 family in specific, both parents are 40 yrs + and their son is 2 and addicted to an iPad.. Take it out of his site, he starts to cry. When he doesn't want to do something, he says no or he'll just cry..he doesn't eat any food but yogurt and snacks.. If I didn't eat what my mom cooked, I just didn't eat.  Parents are far too lenient and so aloof from their kids, I think this is pathetic that as a babysitter I have smarter sense than parents who are 10-20 years older than I am.[/quote]

Wait, you don't think those work to modify a child's behavior? I've seen it work....In fact I can't remember it not working. If there is follow through a spanking isn't needed. I'm not against spanking, I condone child care providers from doing it, but if a parent chooses to not spank, that is their choice.

You or I might see how "entitled" a child starts to become, but we aren't the parents. We have zero right to enforce our beliefs on any parent or child. You can lead by example for your charge. If you do not like the behavior and do not want to take a privilege or give a time out, I suggest you walk away. Tell Timmy you do not like it when he screams for the iPad. He may not hear you as you say it the first time, but once he's calmed down you can again tell him you do not like when he does this or that. Just be matter of fact, you won't sit with him, play with him, or be in the room with him until he stops.

I agree with the eating part. But instead of battling I find fun ways to make the food look fun just to get them to try it, and I also remember how much I hated certain foods as a kid and still do to this day. It isn't crazy for a child to not like potatoes, cauliflower, or whatever. I still hate potatoes.

I just can't get over you thinking those forms of discipline do not work. It's fishy to me. [/quote]

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