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[quote=Anonymous]I'm an MB who would have no problem with this.  However, my educated and otherwise progressive husband once said that he would not want our kids to have a gay teacher because that might make the gay lifestyle seem normal (aka a legitimate option) to young kids.  He's since come around, but I suspect that his thinking back then still resonates with a lot of parents.  So, you are right to proceed with caution.

OP, if keeping your personal life private is bothering you, and I understand why it would if you've worked with this family for a while, I think you should tell the mom (next time the child asks about you having a boyfriend) that her child has asked several times whether you have a boyfriend, and you're unsure of how to answer because you're gay and have a girlfriend.  Ask her how she would like you to handle it.  Depending on the age of the kids, the parents may not want the kids to learn what it means to be gay, because in order to understand what that means, they would need to understand that some relationships are sexual and some aren't.  That's a conversation that goes well beyond you, and should really involve the parents.

If you were my nanny, I think I'd be okay with you answering my child's inquiry by saying that you don't have a boyfriend but you do have a special girlfriend that you like to spend time with.  If you were married to a same sex partner, I'd also be okay with you mentioning your wife to my kids, because I think kids understand the concept of families (and the fact that families can take many different forms) before they are ready to understand sexual intimacy or even just the fact that some same-gender relationships are categorically different from others.  At any rate, I would want to know before you make any disclosure to the children, so I could be prepared to support their potential curiosity with additional information and also work with you on how much information is enough based on their ages.[/quote]

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