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Any advice for dealing with the expectations regarding child management and the AP's taking the kids' behavior personally?  She does seem to exhibit some of the attitude you describe (wanting it to work and not quit) and I know it's very early on (less than a week), but it is draining to have to give her pep talks every other day.  I want to help her and I think she has the potential to be great, but I'm can't eliminate pretty normal kid (mis)behavior or be Dr. Phil for the AP week in and week out. TIA, again.[/quote]

I'd be very cautious about this.  We had that Ap.  She'd be tearful about how 4 year old DD argued with her about hair brushing or picking up or teeth brushing or about going to school.  It was never ending.  We did everything we could think of:  She had the power to take away treats, toys privileges, outings, but never really seemed to do it on a consistent basis.  We made behavior charts, but she'd use them for 4 or 5 days and them stop.  etc. These methods work but they HAVE to be applied consistently and she just wasn't actually interested in being an adult with the kids. Fast forward to the end of the year, she was just letting DD go to school without brushing her hair or teeth! In the end, DH ended up staying home later in the AM to make sure it got done.  I wish I had recognized earlier that she just was not cut out for the job AT ALL. Needless to say, this wasn't the only issue along the way.  [/quote]

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