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[quote=Anonymous]This sounds to me like it is part of her personality. It would drive me crazy too. We once had a nanny who said in front of the kids on her first day that something minor was going to make her "commit suicide". To her it was just a turn of phrase, to me it was a sign that she wasn't going to fit with us, and indeed she went on to complain constantly about things and turned out to be just plain weird. She lasted a week!

You sound very nice and considerate. Since she's been with you for six weeks already, to be fair you should sit down with her and explain that you're concerned that she is not happy due to her negative comments on so many of her experiences every day. If she doesn't understand what you mean, give her some examples like you have given here. You can also say that not only are you concerned she's not happy, but you think it is important for adults to model a "positive attitude" for the kids.

BTW, do the kids like her? Obviously that is a super important factor!!!

If it turns out she's homesick/doesn't like the US but definitely wants to stay, see if there's anything you can do to make her transition easier. If she says she's ok and takes on board your concerns and she doesn't get on your nerves anymore, great. However, if she continues to be negative or she just insn't a good personality match for your family, you should probably rematch asap, then book your winter holiday.[/quote]

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