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[quote=Anonymous]My son has been with a nanny since he was 6 months old.  We had one from 6 - 15 months or so who we were very happy with.

We moved last June and had to hire a new nanny; we had her from  June - November of 2012; ended up firing her for a variety of reasons (not listening to directions, didn't like how she talked to my son, neighbors making comments I didn't like about her, one questionable situation that may have been her slapping his hand, etc.) --  but one of the reasons was that my son (who was 15-20 mos. old at the time) really did not seem to like her (for some of the previously stated reasons, I am sure).

We hired our current nanny in November of last year.  She has been a huge improvement over the previous one - is very warm and loving, good with directions, keeps him busy in lots of ways and goes the extra mile.  She clearly loves him and shows that over and over in terms of what she does with him, brings him, chooses as activities for him, etc.  She has also been an excellent fit with us as a family, and I find her values and style to really match ours.

My son is now almost 2 1/2 months old.  Up until recently he was pretty happy with her; he would ask about her on the weekends, and though I saw that he realized when she came I left and wasn't happy about that, he would get over it pretty quickly.  However, in the past month or two, my son has started saying that he wants her to go home when she shows up; he is just not that excited to see her.  Once I leave the room they play nicely together and I hear him engaging him and making him laugh.  Again, though, at the end of the day, he seems to want her to go and I have to sort-of make him kiss her goodbye, etc.  She has not reported at all that this goes on once I am out of the house - she states that he is loving to her.

He is otherwise a very loving and affectionate kid.  He is very verbal and I have tried to engage him on the topic.  He will say even on weekends that he 'wants her to go home' and when pressed he will occasionally say she is 'not nice' (though he also on occasion says I'm 'not nice', or even that the dog is 'not nice').  Obviously as a 2 year old his story on anything flip flops multiple times (I want rice, I do not want rice, etc.) so it is very hard to parse out what he means.

The only reason I can come up with why he might not like her is that maybe that she is a bit of a talker and I wonder if she is getting into conversations sometimes with other nannies and not as focused on him?

Could this be a phase?  It is making it very hard for me to leave in the morning and I wonder if I am having PTSD from the last one?  It took a lot to find her, we are happy with her on many fronts and I would not take it lightly to let her go . . .

Any thoughts much appreciated.
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