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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am all for facilitating independent play, but I wonder if maybe you're coming at it too strongly for DD's age (or perhaps presenting it to your nanny poorly)? At 18 months, no way would I leave a child in a room by herself for 15-30 minutes. It's just asking for chewed up crayons, every toy pulled off the shelf, and general mayhem. No way would I want to invite all that in ;-)

Now that doesn't mean that my charge isn't playing with some cars on the kitchen table while I make lunch, or looking at a book while I pack up the diaper bag, etc. He gets time to himself, I'm just very nearby to ensure chaos doesn't break out. Now, I could be misinterpreting and this is exactly the kind of independent play you want, but if I'm misinterpreting you, there's probably a good chance your nanny is too.[/quote]

I can't speak for OP, but at 18 months, independent play is more akin to just not having the nanny sit with and interact with the child at every second ( though I can leave my 10 month old charge alone in the playroom while I am in the kitchen- which is adjacent- without incident).  I think the main concern in op's situation is that her LO is having no independence fostered, and her nanny isn't even willing to leave her alone long enough to make lunch/go to the bathroom/have coffee...I'd hate to see nanny at a playground or gym. Helicopter nannying is just as detrimental as helicopter parenting and it's great that OP can recognize this.  OP- you aren't crazy...your nanny's style is really clashing with your own and you need to directly intervene now, and, while it's all well and good that you are nice, you need to make it clear that nanny is not following your wishes and could be doing some real damage here. [/quote]

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