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[quote=Anonymous]My first child is 3 months old and an absolute joy, but he definitely falls into the "high need" category. He wants to be held almost constantly during the day (including for all daytime naps), but he sleeps very well at night and is doing great developmentally. I'm planning to go back to work when he is about 5.5 months old and am hoping to find a nanny who will be sensitive to his high needs. I know some parents are comfortable with a tough love, cry it out approach to these sort of demands, but I'd rather just respond to them. (In my view, since he's developing well and is sleeping at night, why not just hold him when he wants to be held; once he is crawling and can explore the world more, I think he'll naturally become more independent.)

Am I being unrealistic? Are there nannies who will actually be willing to hold him for much of the day? He is great in any baby carrier (ergo, moby, etc), and we have plenty to choose from, if the nanny wants to give those a shot. We also wouldn't really have other expectations for the nanny in the first few months -- I'm staying home with him now, and I know it's not always feasible to get the bottle he took at breakfast, or my sandwich supplies from lunch, into the dishwasher. I obviously wouldn't expect more from my nanny than I do from myself. I just wonder whether we're going to be able to find someone who will be sensitive to his style (vs forcing him to snap out of it through a cry it out approach when I'm not around). Thoughts?[/quote]

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