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[quote=Anonymous]We haven't had curfews for our au pairs and honestly I don't understand them. First of all, do host parents really stay up until curfew to confirm that their AP has come home?  I completely get expecting your AP to be ready on time awake enough to run after the kids all day. If she's not, then address the performance issue rather than putting an artificial bandaid on thr issue. Tell her you expect her to be on time for her shift and that you expect her to be able to keep up with her duties and if she can't do that, then tell her you're prepared to rematch. Believe me, an AP can be awake until 3am on Skype in her room even if you've made her come home at 11. The issue is not when she's home, it's that she performs to your expectations.

As to friends and social life, both of ours have eaten dinner with us pretty much every night but gone out maybe 4 times a week after dinner for the night. They both are gone for a fair number of weekends and when they're not gone, we were very little of them on weekends because they sleep in and then are out all night. 1am is nothing to a 20yo - both of its have had a handful of times a year that they come home after 3am (dancing til the bars closed and then having a late-night dinner). Really I think you'll be a happier host parent if you concern yourself less with her social life and more with her job performance and relationship with the kids. To a point obviously. Someone who doesn't even attend your kids birthday parties is NOT embracing the spirit of the program. But these are young adults after all, and it's pretty ridiculous to feel like you have to put a ton of restrictions on them and grill them on where they are going but then leave your kids with them. [/quote]

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