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[quote=Anonymous]I rarely use time-outs, because I don't see how a toddler is going to put it together that x behavior is related to y time-out.  I try to just give kids consequences for their behavior.

I like the pp who suggested to just calmly put food (or crayons, or toys) away.  In my experience, even toddlers learn that their behavior produces consequences one way or the other.  That is a lifelong lesson - not so much with time-outs or the "1-2-3" nonsense.

Depending on the child, something else that can help is to validate their feelings.  Sorry to use this pop-psychology term.  For example, if I see she is about to take a toy from her little brother, I'll preemptively say, "don't take that toy from him."  She'll look at me, but I can see she is still inching toward him to take it.  I say, "I know you want to use it, but he'll be done soon.  It's hard to wait sometimes, isn't it?"  That often diffuses her.  But if she goes ahead and takes it, I pick her up and remove her from whatever we're playing with.  She'll often cry, then I say, "are you going to share?  we can all play if we all take turns."  When she agrees, we go on playing.  [/quote]

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