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[quote=Anonymous]MB here - I'd like to think I'm not quite that bad in terms of anxiety but I can relate.  We had a really awful experience with a caregiver for about a month and it seriously did scar me.  She clearly had some kind of issue with me and my DH, who is the most mild mannered person ever.  She was always rude and angry and would tell us how awful our DC was.  DC didn't talk enough, wasn't social, didn't listen to her (DC was 16 mos. at the time)  Stupidly, we tried to work it out thinking it was just some kind of miscommunication and trying to give her the benefit of the doubt.  After a terrible month, we ended the relationship, paid severance and went our separate ways.  We have a great nanny now but I do find myself really hesitant to ask her to do even basic normal things because I'm traumatized from last time.  What helps me most is when I do ask her to do something and she's really open to it.  Even better, when she offers to do something I didn't know if it would be okay to ask for.  Maybe you could offer some ideas for her?  I know people will say watch out for job-creep, but it doesn't sound like this person will try to take advantage of you so I wouldn't worry too much.  Also, if it does get out of hand you can always worry about setting a limit then.[/quote]

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