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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi! DS is 5 months old and I just heading back to work. We have a daycare spot, but the other day we were talking to a friend of our who is a SAHM of a toddler. She mentioned that she might want be interested in being our nanny. With the stipulations of course that her kiddo is with her, and that we drop off/pick up at her house. She suggested a rate of 650.00 a week, which I thought was high. To be clear, if she were our full time nanny- coming to our house and not bringing her child- that rate makes sense, but we viewed this as more of a nanny share situation.
  We know her and trust her, but what would your initial reaction be?
FYI- hours would be M-F 8 hours a day.[/quote]
OP, don't do it.  What your friend is proposing is all about benefiting her, and not at all about you.

- The rate she wants is at the top (as in, ridiculous top) of nanny shares, for top nannies, who have years of experience and expertise.  To compare, my DS was in a nanny share in NW DC with a top-notch nanny charging $19/hr for a full week.  For each employer, it worked out to about $1,700 per month, including employer taxes.  Nanny paycheck every two weeks was about $700 per member.  And remember, that was a nanny with 20+ years of experience.  What skills does your friend have besides being your friend and mom?

- The greater problem is that she is your friend.  In a nanny/employer relationship, the balance is obvious - I tell nanny how I want things done, the nanny may or may gently suggest changes based on her experience, but at the end of the day it's up to the employer.  Professional nannies understand that.  Will you be comfortable being your friend's boss? Telling her how you want things done? Expecting her to be accountable for this?

- You have to drop off and pick up at her place. The major benefit of having a nanny is not having to dress up and leave the house.  You are basically using a small home daycare and paying above nanny share rates.  You will have zero power over how she does things at her house.  She is viewing it as she's just staying at her house, being a mom to her kid, and yours just happen to be there and she keeps him comfortable.  That is NOT what nannies do.

In short, I see zero advantages to you in the arrangement you described.  You'd do better with someone who is actually qualified to do that job, and didn't pull the rates out of her arse.

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What 9:35 describes is her personal baggage. Not everyone shares her personal negative experiences nor personal biases.

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