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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MB here. Honestly puzzled at why requiring sharing is not important. If DC has 1 toy and is little I would say no need to share. If we have 2 or hold is old enough not to meltdown with taking turns then that is what I would require. Otherwise do not bring to park. That said it is very rude to ask for someone else's snack. Still I would have told her to ask her mom and given her a few pieces (not half and not a ton ) of the bag. After that nothing else to some strange kid. But certainly when it [b]escalated to tugging on the bag[/b] it was clear kids were not handling well so you should have stepped in. [/quote]

PP here. Do you really believe that? At 6 some kids are in elementary school, and the playground battles there are much more severe than tugging on another child's snack bag. I really do think at this age this is a case where it makes sense for kids to learn how to negotiate their own way with their peers. If it escalated to hitting or name calling I would intervene, and I would probably step in if it were my charge/child who tried to grab something from another kid, but in this case? I'd want them to sort it out themselves. I believe they're old enough that they need to develop those skills and that monitoring their interactions every step of the way is how we get kids, teens, and young adults who don't know how to negotiate or compromise with their peers.[/quote]

They weren't just arguing. Things DID get physical when they began tugging back and forth on the bag. OP was observing and this little girl clearly doesn't respect boundaries. Why wait until someone gets hit? The teaching moment could take place after the situation was handled and before anyone got hit. [/quote]

I don't completely understand your point...I didn't say they were only arguing, I acknowledged there was tugging on the snack bag, and said I wouldn't have intervened unless there was hitting or name calling. I also said would have intervened if my charge/child had been the one grabbing - those are all rules we have that she should know that I would enforce. However, when someone else tries to steal something she's holding and her response is to grab it back? That's the right thing to do, she should learn how to stick up for herself on the playground without an adult's help. Why wait, you ask? Because it might not have led to hitting - they might have just scowled at each other for a moment and then continued playing! That happens a lot, and is why it's worth standing back to watch.[/quote]

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