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[quote=Anonymous]Absolutely.  The agency probably called the MB after your first day to see how things went, and your MB may have said you had called her twice and didn't seem sure of yourself.  But if things have gone better since then, she has probably already written that off as a first day thing.  The agency probably just relayed her comment to you because they have an interest in getting her to hire you, so they wanted you to know that MB may not be a huge fan of frequent calls at work.  It doesn't mean the MB was deeply upset by it.

Try not to think of other feedback from the MB as criticism at this stage in your relationship.  You are new to this particular job, and the fact that MB wants you to do things a certain way does not mean that she doesn't think you know what you're doing, it just means that she is an experienced mom who prefers to have some things done differently, perhaps for no reason other than the fact that her household already has a certain routine.  Most moms realize that there are many "right" ways to do things.  Even if there is only one "right" way to do things in her house, she probably recognizes that other "good" families do things differently.

You might try saving up your questions to ask at the end of the day, when she is more relaxed than she's likely to be while at the office.  Then tell her what happened during the day and how you handled it, and ask if she has a preference for handling a similar situation in the future.  You might also come up with a list of situations that frequently arise while nannying, tell the MB how you usually handle them, and ask her if she would prefer you do something different.  Always start from a place of "I know how to operate a fax machine, but I want to make sure I am using THIS fax machine properly.  Most moms will appreciate that level of conscientiousness.[/quote]

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